Lauren sees it as “giving a middle finger to the people who told me I couldn’t do it”
Lauren’s baby is due in June, and her journey to motherhood has certainly been distinctive.
For one, the 29-year-old’s decision to have this baby went against the advice of doctors and friends.
Secondly, Lauren is a virgin – and she’s in no rush whatsoever to change this.
A member of a deeply religious Manitoban community in Canada, from an early age Lauren knew she was “different.”
“I was born with hypopituitarism, which means my pituitary gland is not formed properly,” she tells VICE .
“It doesn’t send the right hormonal messages to the other glands in the body, like the adrenaline gland or the ovaries.”
It means not only has she had to take hormone replacements for a long time, but she came to puberty a lot later in life – a fact which was not lost on others.
“I was getting made fun of for being really flat chested, whereas everybody else was getting their boobs and everything at that point.”
It was this that prompted her to go on the medication course, which “really sucked because it forced me to do something I wasn’t necessarily ready for.”
The teasing she experienced is something she can still recall vividly.
She continues: “I got teased for being flat chested or having buck teeth. Kids would latch on to anything that was different.
“A lot of that teasing has given me social anxiety to this day. My life started improving when I started looking like everyone else.”
Yet despite all the mockery, Lauren is not only happy with being a virgin, but she’s got no plans to become sexually active.
She does admit, how, since becoming pregnant “there have been times where I’ve felt like maybe it would be nice to have someone for that,” she points out these instances are her “not acting like myself.”
Even her experiences kissing have left her nonplussed, as she admits” “I’ve been kissed, very awkwardly. It’s not something I want to relive.”
Lauren has also tried dating, having gone on websites and tried to meet people that way, but she adds she’s happier by herself.
As for getting pregnant itself, it was decision she had fight for.
“Initially my endocrinologist said it won’t happen, that I’ll need to get an egg donor and spend tens of thousands of dollars on IVF,” she says.
“I felt really shut down.”
Eventually she was referred to a fertility clinic and, after a year on a waiting list, her life changed.
Growing up in such a religious community, she partly sees motherhood as making a point to others.
“I make jokes about it but basically this is me giving a middle finger to the people who told me I couldn’t do it because I’m not married yet.
“It’s the opposite of a religious reason. If you’re telling me I can’t do this, I’m going to do it anyway.”